Pillars of Marriage

In one of the Sundays i attended the cathecism class we talked about married life since some of the participants are undergoing preparation for marriage seminar. The lecturer made a very simple example how couple can be childish in treating married life.

There was this couple who is undergoing marriage counseling. After just three years of married life, they are filing for legal separation the reason is irreconcilable differences. Funny as it seem but the one thing they could not agree upon is how to use the toothpaste, the woman wanted that the toothpaste be squeezed from bottom to neck, and the husband just ignore and do it his way- squeezing near the neck.
The woman got pissed off to keep repeating (talk of being an obsessive-compulsive person) and started to nag, the man hates being nagged about things he thought he does right.
Simple things lead to big fight , pride come between them and no one wants to set it aside so they resorted to the easiest way out- live their own lives.

The counselor just smiled while both of them vents their anger toward each other. She asked each of them to tell what is the good thing they can say of each other, they realized that it is more than just the toothpaste, both of them makes each other laugh at the simplest joke they tell. So the counselor asked them why cant just they have separate tube of toothpaste first and use it according to how they want and see if it makes them happy. They considered the suggestion, the man just dont feel nice doing it and prefers to share what the wife is using, and the woman felt the same. They went back to the counselor for their session and tell about what they feel having to use separate toothpaste tube. Both of them agreed it doesnt make sense.
The counselor told them: when you decided to get married, you were bounded by an invisible knot to SHARE everything: joys, pain, tears. You will be your partner's other leg when he or she find it difficult to walk. You will be each other's strength when one of you is weak. You will be the reason for him or her to smile when one of you is sad. That is LOVE.
Even the smallest secret you keep in the deepest corner of your heart you dont have any worry telling him or her because you TRUST him/her.

When you are married, you don't just think for yourself but for your partner also that is called RESPECT. You have to take into consideration each others feelings.

It is a series of adjustment for both of you and often will test your PATIENCE, because you will only get to know each other while you are growing together.

Marriage is a matter of COMPROMISE its not just an 'i' 'me' nor 'you'. Its always a case of 'we'.
Think about it.
Marriage often failed because of SELFISHNESS.